“What we do in life is determined by how we communicate to ourselves. In the modern world, the quality of life is the quality of communication.” – Tony Robbins
Most people don’t pay any attention to the way we communicate with ourselves. When things go wrong we berate ourselves with: “what’s wrong with you” “why do you keep doing things like that” etc.
We talk to ourselves inside our heads in a way we would never talk to someone else. Not because we are afraid, but because we have empathy and compassion for others. Most people never tell a coworker that they suck or that their work is shitty, but most of us feel completely comfortable thinking those thoughts about ourselves and our work every single day.
When you berate and demean yourself in your own head, you crush your own confidence and ambition. How will you set your sights high and dream of a bigger and better future when you yourself think you’re a loser, or at least tell yourself that you are a couple times a day?
The results we aim for and achieve in our lives are a reflection of what we think we are worthy of. We can all set goals and think it would be cool to achieve something new, but if you don’t address your communication habits and your behavior, the results you’ll get in the future will be the same as the results you’ve had in the past.
When you start to bring attention and intention to your internal dialogue you shift your momentum in a big way. Instead of creating limits and seeing roadblocks, you start to see opportunities.
Think of how a team functions and the results they would create if their manager or coach communicated with the team the way you communicate with yourself? They’d fracture, fight, and fall apart.
As you move through your days, bring attention to the way you’re communicating with yourself about things. Think of how you’d communicate if you were a coach of a team and not just talking to yourself. Create empathy for yourself and communicate in a way that motivates and empowers instead of tearing yourself down.
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